In this poignant and powerful memoir, David B. Bohl reveals the inner turmoil and broad spectrum of warring emotions--shame, anger, triumph, shyness, pride--he experienced growing up as a "relinquished" boy. Adopted at birth by a prosperous family, Bohl battled throughout his earlier years to keep up a good front and surpass expectations as he tried desperately to fit in. An over-achiever at everything he undertook, whether in sailing, academics, or life as a trader on the Chicago Exchange floor, he continued his search for happiness, often finding it in a bottle or pill, and ultimately becoming a raging and wealthy alcoholic.
Not until David marries and has children of his own does he feel compelled to search for his birth parents to discover if genetics played a role in the well-being of his offspring. "Baby Boy Bender," as he was labeled in the adoption papers, had been born to a red-haired co-ed who struggled with alcoholism and an athlete who later died of a brain tumor.
After several severe seizures and frequent blackouts, it was time to make a drastic change and admit his addiction. Raised with no religious teachings, David struggled with traditional recovery fellowships and sought out secular supports, where he finally fit in. This support allowed him to learn the stark facts about mental health and addiction, as well as the monumental issues many "relinquishees" need to overcome to find peace and a quality of life they deserve.
About the Author
Bohl is a graduate of the University of South Florida and Hazelden Betty Ford Graduate School of Addiction Studies. David is a member of the National Association for Alcoholism and Drug Abuse Counselors (NAADAC), American Adoption Congress (AAC), and Concerned United Birthparents (CUB). Today, the author lives with his wife in Milwaukee, Wisconsin. He is a current or former member of a number of national and regional sailing and yachting associations. Bohl’s volunteerism through the Salvation Army, in the recovery community, and through a variety of sailing and yachting clubs has touched individuals from many walks of life.